I have come to believe that by and large the human family has all the same secrets. (Fredrick Buechner)
Thursday, September 21, 2017
“There is nothing that makes me happier than sitting around the dinner table and talking until the candles are burned down.” ― Madeleine L'Engle, A Circle of Quiet
I used to say that nothing makes me happier than a good, meaty conversation.
As the years have gone by, though, I have felt less and less able to pull my own weight in conversation.
I run out of things to say or ask the other person about. Maybe I'm just not interesting enough? Have I stopped reading, learning, and growing, so I have nothing to bring to the table?
Whatever it is, when I'm on the spot, I often can't think of a way to take the talk from "small talk" to at least "medium talk," if that's a thing.
Part of the problem may be that the conversations that dash my hopes are often one on one. The ideal number of people for a discussion that is simultaneously relaxed and stimulating, I propose (or at least prefer), is four. In a group of three to five, no one need carry the conversational ball alone, yet there's space for everyone to have their say. My new team at work is a team of four, and that feels just right.
Do you have any strategies for stimulating great conversations? What works for you?